Posts Tagged ‘tell yourself better stories’

Saw a meme on Facebook the other day, it said the cost of success was

  • late nights
  • early mornings
  • very few friends
  • being misunderstood
  • feeling overwhelmed
  • questioning your sanity
  • being your own cheerleader


I’d agree with being your own cheerleader. I think everybody should do that.54f6a620-f2d8-4bdc-ad37-a97aa1a18800

but it seems to me that the rest of that list are things that are optional, not mandatory. What if, instead, success meant

  • doing things at the time that works best for you
  • spending time on the things you love
  • traveling with a tribe of friends who are enthusiastic about your dream
  • being unique
  • feeling excited about all of the great things you are doing
  • wondering why other people won’t put their energy in service to their dreams…

What if success wasn’t a negative experience? What if it was working and playing hard at something that feeds your soul- and delightful experiences while you do it?

Lets tell ourselves better stories about success.

Work hard. Play hard. Succeed. Feed your soul.

And have a great day






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So positive self talk or telling ourselves better stories can help us create a better world for ourselves and others. Can psychologically help us to focus on the positive things around us, which is physically and mentally healthier for us, and tends to inspire us towards moving in the direction of mother positive things. Can metaphysically attract and manifest more of the positive things we are focusing on and other things that are similarly positive, creating an upwards spiral of creation.

But the truth’s the truth, right? It’s absolute. Things are great or they’re crappy, but they are what they are. Telling yourself things are super when they’re lousy is just being in denial, right?

Well, yes… and no.

Many times, your experience is not so much about what’s going on than how you chose to experience it.

For instance, if you’re constantly telling yourself you’re tired, you’ll find you become chronically tired. If you’re repeatedly telling yourself how hard life is, you’ll find it gets harder and harder.

But the reverse is also true.

What if, instead of telling yourself what a horrible day you had, you told yourself that the bad stuff’s behind you now?

What if, instead of telling yourself that your co-workers were all jerks, you told yourself that they all had their own strengths and weaknesses?

What if, instead of telling yourself that you’re trapped in a dead-end situation, you told yourself that you were where you were until you found and chose to move to something better?

It doesn’t have to be a major shift in story….

Got a task that you’ve been saying was “too hard / impossible / overwhelming”? Try just telling yourself that it’s “challenging” instead.

See how it shifts both the nature of the task and your ability to complete  it?

(For bonus points, tell yourself that it’s “challenging, but nothing that you can’t handle”…  :-)….)

There are folks who claim that this is just a “Pollyanna” attitude – denial that keeps you from getting anywhere.

My observation is that the folks around me who chose to focus on negative things seem to attract more  of them – to the point of the statistically unlikely.

And the folks who tell themselves better stories start to attract the little miracles. And the bigger ones.

All I know is it works.

So I wish you better stories in your life.






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We’ve  talked about how our beliefs, conscious and unconscious, shape our world and manifest experiences that support those beliefs.

We’ve talked about ways to change those beliefs, such as affirmations, setting an intention, and telling ourselves better stories through positive self talk.

Let’s take a deeper look at self talk.

Some self talk comes from other folks, like our family and friends. Even if they care for us, they may see us in ways that limit us or undermine our best lives.  (For instance “Your brother’s the smart one.”)

Some self talk comes from ourselves –  from lessons we have chosen to learn from our experiences. These lessons may be one way of finding meaning in those experiences, but not be the interpretation that supports us in having our most happy, prosperous lives. There may be better lessons to take away from these experiences than the beliefs we absorbed. (For instance, after the end of a bad romance, do we believe “All men are jerks.” or ” I need to chose a relationship with someone who treats me with respect.” ?)

Either way, we internalize these beliefs and they create our self talk –  the stories that we tell ourselves. As we pass through life, our beliefs create on-going self talk, that runs constantly like the theme music of our lives. The beliefs and self-talk manifest experiences that support those beliefs. The beliefs/self-talk  also shape our attention to focus on things that support those beliefs.

Which strengthen those beliefs.

Which manifest more evidence.

It’s a constant, self-feeding spiral, whether for good or ill …

Fortunately, that can work for us as well as against us.

Our beliefs can shape our self-talk. Our self-talk can also shape our beliefs.

Start listening to the things you tell yourself about yourself and the world around you.

Then think about whether there’s a better  story you could tell yourself.

You don’t have to constantly monitor yourself or make a total change to your self-talk all at once.

Even a small change can make a major difference.

And I’ll be giving you examples in the next post on the Power of Words

See you then






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Got to thinking about a conversation that I had awhiles back with someone who was in a world of hurt.

As she talked, she kept telling me  about how she couldn’t let go of the situation that was hurting her. How exhausted and drained she felt. How she felt alone and trapped and without hope.

She had certainly been through a lot of challenging experiences. She had a right to feel down and stressed…

I really felt bad for her and all of the things she was going through…

But I was also struck by how the words she was using made the trap she found herself in stronger.

If only she could have told herself a little better story…

Told herself that she had the strength to get through this…

That she hadn’t moved on yet, but that she certainly could…

That she’d take something worthwhile out of this part of her life (strength or wisdom or compassion) and let the rest go…

Then this trap could have been a transformation for her.

I’m sorry that she’s still hurting.

But I wish that she could find it in herself to tell the stories that would set her free as opposed to make a hard situation worse for her…

And it made me think…

What kind of stories am I telling myself?…………..






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In a previous post, I talked about the concept of telling yourself better stories. Let’s talk about that now.

In medical studies on stress, researchers originally thought that stress was a “stimulus – response” reaction.

You know. Your  partner tells you you’re moving to Timbuktu. You get stressed. That kind of thing…

However, on looking more closely, they found something very interesting.

Two people could have an identical experience.

One would be traumatized…

The other would be fine.

What’s up with that?

Researchers found that the amount of stress wasn’t actually due to what happened.

Instead, it was determined by the meaning a person attached to what happened….

To the stories they told themselves about the experience…

So, one person might view that move to Timbuktu as an exhausting, overwhelming foray into unknown territory..

And another might see it as a delightful adventure that will teach her exciting new things…

Which one do you think will be more stressed? Which one will benefit more from the experience?

And the difference in stress levels and health and the overall experience each of them will have is only the stories they tell themselves.

The power of words…

Interesting, that….






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