Posts Tagged ‘self-esteem’

I was on a podcast last week and, given that it was the week before Valentine’s Day, we were talking about love and what builds loving relationships

And then we got a caller on who asked “What do you do to learn to love yourself after you’ve gotten out of a bad relationship?”


That’s a really important question.

I did what I could to give her some ideas that might help, but there’s only so much that you can do in 20 minutes or so; and that’s a really important skill set that a lot of us need at some point in our lives- so I’m going to do a series on metaphysical and alt health options to start rebuilding her self esteem after ending a bad relationship here.

Hope that you never have to use this info, but if, at some point, you do, I hope that you find something that works for you.

More coming on this soon.

*Note- Being in or ending a bad or abusive relationship can leave you with physical, mental, emotional and spiritual damage which you need to deal with. Since this is not a “one size fits all universe”, everybody will have different things they need to heal and recover.

If you need medical treatment, or counselling, or medication, I’d encourage you to get what you need, just as I’d encourage you to try alternative health approaches or self esteem builders. Remember to find what works for you, and then make sure that you do what you need to heal on an ongoing basis.

Take care of yourself- you deserve it.*






For more information on Catherine’s books, “Adventures in Palmistry”, “The Practical Empath – Surviving and Thriving as a Psychic Empath”, “Manifesting Something Better” her urban fantasy “The Lands That Lie Between”  and her new book “The Psychic Power of Your Dreams”, all from Foresight Publications, click here

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It’s the holiday shopping season. And we run around looking for “just the right present”.


Well, on beyond bolstering the economy, a meaningful present can express the affection and respect you have for that person, and honor the relationship between you.

At that point, the most “right” present doesn’t depend on price tag or latest trends, or what all of the other kids are getting.

It’s something that speaks of the person themselves, and who they really are. Or speaks of the connection you have between you. Or both.

Just had a curious  idea…

Why not put yourself on your own list? Give yourself  a present to express affection and respect for yourself, and to honor being your own best friend.

So many of us spend so much time looking after others that we starve our own inner spirits.

So give yourself that scented shampoo that makes you feel happy when you use it. Or those art supplies that somehow don’t seem important enough to make the budget (eat ramen and buy paint!) Or the gift of time, to actually do what calls to you. Or permission to try and fail(which is an essential part of trying and succeeding…)

Put yourself on your own list.

And give yourself a bit of what you need to be extraordinary, follow your dreams and be happy….

Happy shopping






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In my last post on meeting your blocks to manifestation, we talked about how problems with your self esteem can rise up and create blocks to manifesting what you want. How that Rotten Little Voice inside can tell you that you’re unworthy, that success is scary, that achieving your dream will just make you unhappy, that your success will hurt other people , and other lies that keep you trapped and unable to live your dreams.

We’ve talked about the Rotten Little Voice in other previous posts, but it also can pop up as an obstacle to maifesting your dreams.

So how can you silence that Rotten Little Voice? How can you improve your self -esteem so it will support you in manifesting your dreams?

Different people need different answers. Because of this, I’m offering an all-you-can-eat-buffet of solutions, so you can pick and chose and fill your plate with what serves you best.

Want some ideas? Try to:

  • Use affirmations to reprogram your unconscious beliefs:
  • Use E.F.T. (Emotional Fredom Technique) – a system of tapping on energy meridians combined with affirmations to clear stick negative beliefs:
  • Spend  more time with people who make you feel good about yourself, and less time with the “dream -killers” who put you down:
  • Use subliminal tapes to feed your unconscious positive feedback while you do other thinsg:
  • Use hypnosis or self-hypnosis to  change your habitual thought patterns;
  • Visualize yourself suceeding at your dream -include emotion, the five senses, you in the viualisation:
  • Spend times remembering the times that you have suceeded, big or small;
  • Do things that make you happy – its harder to put yourself down when you’re happy;
  • Feed your spirit positive things – read positive books, listen to positive music, etc. Limit your exposure to things that tell you that living your dreams is hard or will make you unhappy;
  • Do the gratitude dance – be thankful for the good things already in your life and the things that you have already achieved;
  • Look for role models who have succeeded in the area that you want to succeed in. Learn from them. If them, why not you?  (And if there are no role models in your area, why not you as the first?…)

These are just a few of many methods you can use to get your self -esteem up and dancing, and stop blocking yourself.

And make your dreams come true…

See you soon






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And there’s still more to be said about the nature of obstacles.

And one of the biggest challenges can be your own self-esteem, and whether you have it or not.

There are many people who have a good dream, have the right dream for themselves, have a plan and support, and still crash and burn because their lack of self-esteem will not permit them to succeed even at something worthy..

So there are blocks in the road, and “co-incidences”, and challenges, and doubts, all in the service of keeping them safe by keeping them from doing something the unconscious thinks they will “surely fail at”.

Why would such a daft thing happen?

The unconscious with problem self-esteem may fear that you will fail and  tries to prevent you from being hurt by the process of failure,

Or feels that you are unworthy of success so it creates situations to cause you to fail.

Well, that’s no fun….

How can you tell if self-esteem problems are getting in the way of your dreams?

Here’s a few indicators:

  • Do you have an ongoing pattern of calling yourself names (“Stupid me!”) or making denigrating statements about yourself (“I’m so clumsy…”) ?
  • Do you have negative self talk (“You’ll never win”, “These bad things always happen to me”, “All  of the good ones are taken.”) on a regular basis?
  • Do you feel untalented or unskilled?
  • Do you feel unworthy(of health, wealth, happiness, success, love, etc.)?
  • Does the idea of achieving something amazing make you feel sick or afraid, without even a touch of excitement?
  • Would you support your dream if your friend wanted to do it, but feel that it’s impossible for you?

Things like these can be the tell tales of anemic self-esteem, and can indicate that you need to step back and examine whether you are your own best friend and loudest cheer leader –

And see if you believe in your own ability to make a dream come true…

( By the by, it’s perfectly fine to look at your dream and get anxious whether you can accomplish something so much bigger than you ever have before. It takes most of us work to expand our belief of what we are capable of.

But if you’re scared silly without any excitement, if you’re constantly putting on the brakes or “forgetting” to work on your dreams, even though you feel that this dream is something that should happen, then you may need to do some work on your self-esteem

On feeling capable of success

On feeling worthy of success.)

More on the way






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