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“I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.”

Martha Washington 1732-1802, First American First Lady





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So positive self talk or telling ourselves better stories can help us create a better world for ourselves and others. Can psychologically help us to focus on the positive things around us, which is physically and mentally healthier for us, and tends to inspire us towards moving in the direction of mother positive things. Can metaphysically attract and manifest more of the positive things we are focusing on and other things that are similarly positive, creating an upwards spiral of creation.

But the truth’s the truth, right? It’s absolute. Things are great or they’re crappy, but they are what they are. Telling yourself things are super when they’re lousy is just being in denial, right?

Well, yes… and no.

Many times, your experience is not so much about what’s going on than how you chose to experience it.

For instance, if you’re constantly telling yourself you’re tired, you’ll find you become chronically tired. If you’re repeatedly telling yourself how hard life is, you’ll find it gets harder and harder.

But the reverse is also true.

What if, instead of telling yourself what a horrible day you had, you told yourself that the bad stuff’s behind you now?

What if, instead of telling yourself that your co-workers were all jerks, you told yourself that they all had their own strengths and weaknesses?

What if, instead of telling yourself that you’re trapped in a dead-end situation, you told yourself that you were where you were until you found and chose to move to something better?

It doesn’t have to be a major shift in story….

Got a task that you’ve been saying was “too hard / impossible / overwhelming”? Try just telling yourself that it’s “challenging” instead.

See how it shifts both the nature of the task and your ability to complete  it?

(For bonus points, tell yourself that it’s “challenging, but nothing that you can’t handle”…  :-)….)

There are folks who claim that this is just a “Pollyanna” attitude – denial that keeps you from getting anywhere.

My observation is that the folks around me who chose to focus on negative things seem to attract more  of them – to the point of the statistically unlikely.

And the folks who tell themselves better stories start to attract the little miracles. And the bigger ones.

All I know is it works.

So I wish you better stories in your life.






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