Posts Tagged ‘manifesting your Dream’

We’ve been talking about the phenemenom of obstacles popping up on the path to your dreams.

Sometimes this happens because we’re heading for the right Dream, but we’re taking the wrong route….

As we discussed a ways back, if you want to get some where, first you need to know where you’re going (or you could end up any where…). When climbing the ladder of success, you need to be sure that you’ve leaned your ladder against the right wall.

Once you’ve gotten clear on that, one of the other major stumbling blocks most of us run into is to think that our dreams will come to us in one specific way, and that way only.

Dream – marriage. Wrong route – just like my parents had.

Dream – professional success. Wrong route – through a field that most people think of as sucessful

Dream – serving the Universe. Wrong route – working with people in poverty overseas.

(By the by, when I’m listing these things as “wrong route”, it doesn’t mean that this may be the wrong route for you. It may be your perfect route. These are just common examples of how you can be heading the right direction, but get sidetracked by an expected route off of the way that you are supposed to reach your dream…)

Some times we get so set on reaching our dream by a particular method, that we lose track of the fact that there’s another (or several other) ways to get there that would be easier, quicker, more pleasurable.

It’s like if there’s a big traffic jam on the highway,

You can get on and sit there listening to the radio and going nowhere for a couple of hours…

Or you can take an alternate route and be there in 15 minutes….

Feel like you’re banging your head against the wall in trying to reach your dream?

Then it might be good to stop, step back, and take a good look at whether you’ve gotten so attatched to getting your dream in a particular way that you’ve closed off the avenues to better options…

More coming 🙂






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And there’s still more to be said about the nature of obstacles.

And one of the biggest challenges can be your own self-esteem, and whether you have it or not.

There are many people who have a good dream, have the right dream for themselves, have a plan and support, and still crash and burn because their lack of self-esteem will not permit them to succeed even at something worthy..

So there are blocks in the road, and “co-incidences”, and challenges, and doubts, all in the service of keeping them safe by keeping them from doing something the unconscious thinks they will “surely fail at”.

Why would such a daft thing happen?

The unconscious with problem self-esteem may fear that you will fail and  tries to prevent you from being hurt by the process of failure,

Or feels that you are unworthy of success so it creates situations to cause you to fail.

Well, that’s no fun….

How can you tell if self-esteem problems are getting in the way of your dreams?

Here’s a few indicators:

  • Do you have an ongoing pattern of calling yourself names (“Stupid me!”) or making denigrating statements about yourself (“I’m so clumsy…”) ?
  • Do you have negative self talk (“You’ll never win”, “These bad things always happen to me”, “All  of the good ones are taken.”) on a regular basis?
  • Do you feel untalented or unskilled?
  • Do you feel unworthy(of health, wealth, happiness, success, love, etc.)?
  • Does the idea of achieving something amazing make you feel sick or afraid, without even a touch of excitement?
  • Would you support your dream if your friend wanted to do it, but feel that it’s impossible for you?

Things like these can be the tell tales of anemic self-esteem, and can indicate that you need to step back and examine whether you are your own best friend and loudest cheer leader –

And see if you believe in your own ability to make a dream come true…

( By the by, it’s perfectly fine to look at your dream and get anxious whether you can accomplish something so much bigger than you ever have before. It takes most of us work to expand our belief of what we are capable of.

But if you’re scared silly without any excitement, if you’re constantly putting on the brakes or “forgetting” to work on your dreams, even though you feel that this dream is something that should happen, then you may need to do some work on your self-esteem

On feeling capable of success

On feeling worthy of success.)

More on the way






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