Archive for December 19th, 2010

Well, we’re in the holiday season and folks are zipping around, buying presents, trimming trees, lighting menorahs, going to holiday events, eating rich foods, overextending themselves and doing all of the other kinds of burning the holiday candle at both ends that can wear you out.

And everyone and sundry is talking about “holiday stress”….

Wanna know a secret? You don’t have to be stressed or depressed for the holidays. You just need to keep a few  things in mind…

1) LEAVE EXTRA TIME  Do you have an amazing plan for all of the wonderful things you’re going to do to make this holiday special? (I know I do…) Have you built flexibility into your plan?

No matter how well you plan, it’s guaranteed that some things are going to take longer than you thought. Traffic jams, extra errands and the great Mystery of unforseen emergencies will happen.

And when it happens, you can roll with it or go to pieces…

Plan for the unplannable. Leave yourself some wiggle time and you’ll have time to adapt to change and enjoy the season. (It also sets you free to be compassionate if people around you need it.)                    

2) REST  – Going to parties? Shopping for presents? Wrapping and baking and decorating, oh my?

It’s easy during the holiday season to stay up too late, get up too early and shortchange yourself the sleep you need in the name of “getting it all done”. Make sure you make getting enough rest a priority so you can be happy, healthy and enjoy the season.               

 3)  GOOD ENOUGH Have all of the wonderful plans you like. Then set a policy of being kind with yourself, of accepting “good enough” as opposed to holding out for “perfect”

Perfectionism tends to lead to harshness, and crankiness, and has spoiled holidays throughout the ages. Good enough, on the other hand, puts the emphasis on acceptance, which helps folks to be kind with each other and themselves, (and this is what a happy holiday is all about)

4) TAKE A BREAK – With so many important things to accomplish, many folks feel guilty if they aren’t making every minute count. This can make you tired and cranky, and cause you to be unkind to the people you’re trying to be nice to.

The answer – take a break.

 Take a break

  • to listen to holiday music;
  • to make contact with people you care for;
  • to watch a funky holiday special on tv;
  • to drive around and look at the lights;
  • to get your center back;

You’ve left extra time, right? Well, a break is one good use for this time to regain your center, and reconnect with the joy of the season.

The holidays can be stressful or they can be wondrous; and the main difference seems to lie in keeping your center, taking care of yourself as well as others, being present in and enjoying the moment,and doing enough without trying to be perfect.

There’s more suggestions for ways to have a happy and balanced holiday on the way…








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