So we want to improve ourselves and our lives -
To make the world around us better place,
But we find it’s hard to get started – to get off of our posteriors and make things happen.
It’s that darn resistance…..
(Remember? We talked about resistance in a previous post.)
So how do we deal with that? How do we keep resistance from shooting our dreams down in flames?
Well, one way, when faced with the Dragons of Resistance, is just…don’t…wake…the…dragons…up….
Kaizen to the rescue!
Kaizen is a Japanese business principle which also happens to work wonderfully on personal goals as well.
How’s it work? Well, the basic philosophy is to break your goals down to the largest step that you’re willing and able to start on now…
Why small? Well, the bigger a goal is , the more likely it is to trigger resistance. Smaller goals are more likely to move in under the radar without activating resistance, while still moving you in the direction of your dreams.
Why now? Because if you act when you first have the idea, you have the energy of excitement, which can help you get places. The longer you wait, the more likely resistance is to rear its ugly head.
And why the biggest step you’ll start on now? Because different people have different thresholds of comfort. If you chose a step that’s big enough to trigger resistance, it can slow down or stop you. If you chose a step that’s smaller than you need, you’re wasting your momentum.
If you set a goal, and you find yourself struggling to get going, that’s a cue that you need to break the goal down smaller.
So, for instance, if your goal is to clean and reorganize your home so you’re comfortable having your friends come and visit (social networks are important and fun, too.), maybe you resolve to start by decluttering your living room.
If you find you somehow can’t get started ( and you know you truly want visitors), you may want to chunk this down and start by clearing 1/4 of the room.
If that doesn’t work, maybe you start by clearing the coffee table…
Sometimes, the goals get down to what seems like absurd levels. Like maybe you stand in the doorway to the room, look in, then withdraw to the kitchen for some coffee…
But the fact is that, in a goal that triggers resistance at such a high level, completing even a tiny step in the right direction can both relax the resistance slightly and give you a burst of energy to go further.
So then you set another step – the biggest one you will start on immediately without triggering resistance.
Baby steps towards your bliss.
So, what’s your next baby step?…..
More change coming
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